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1import{j as e,a as t}from"./index-fNpDSBmx.js";import{B as n}from"./BlogPost-DsW0GBzz.js";import"./VettedLogo-eLFsF1yA.js";import"./HeaderAuthLink-CAWB40z4.js";import"./arrow-left-KEsIKPFS.js";import"./arrow-right-PAyd_3Fb.js";function l(){return e.jsxs(n,{category:"Intention",title:t,subtitle:"By Christian Maciel, PhD, LMFT — on why intention, not attraction, is the real starting point for lasting relationships.",readingTime:"6 min read",children:[e.jsxs("p",{children:["If you've ever deleted a dating app and thought,"," ",e.jsx("em",{children:`"Maybe I'm just tired of this,"`})," you're not alone."]}),e.jsxs("p",{children:["After more than 20 years as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I've had the privilege of helping hundreds of people navigate relationships. One thing has become increasingly clear to me: many people aren't frustrated because they can't find someone attractive. They're frustrated because they can't easily find someone with the ",e.jsx("strong",{children:"same intentions"}),"."]}),e.jsx("p",{children:"One person is hoping to build a life with someone. The other is simply looking for companionship. Neither person is wrong. But when those intentions don't match, disappointment often follows."}),e.jsx("h2",{children:"Modern dating has become efficient… but not necessarily better"}),e.jsx("p",{children:"Technology has made meeting people easier than ever. You can browse hundreds of profiles in minutes. You can match instantly. You can start conversations within seconds."}),e.jsx("p",{children:"Yet despite all of this convenience, many people tell me they feel more discouraged than ever. Why? Because most dating platforms are built to answer one question first:"}),e.jsx("p",{children:e.jsx("strong",{children:'"Do I find this person attractive?"'})}),e.jsx("p",{children:"Instead of asking:"}),e.jsx("p",{children:e.jsx("strong",{children:'"Are we looking for the same kind of relationship?"'})}),e.jsx("p",{children:"Those are very different questions."}),e.jsx("h2",{children:"Attraction matters"}),e.jsx("p",{children:"Let's be honest. Physical attraction is important. It should be. Healthy relationships include attraction."}),e.jsx("p",{children:"But attraction alone doesn't tell us whether someone is emotionally available, ready for commitment, or looking for the same future we are. Those conversations usually happen much later — after we've already invested time and emotion."}),e.jsx("p",{children:"What if we reversed that process?"}),e.jsx("h2",{children:"What if dating began with intention?"}),e.jsx("p",{children:"Imagine joining a dating community where every member first paused to reflect on questions like:"}),e.jsxs("ul",{children:[e.jsx("li",{children:"Am I ready for a healthy relationship?"}),e.jsx("li",{children:"What kind of partner do I want to become?"}),e.jsx("li",{children:"What values matter most to me?"}),e.jsx("li",{children:"What am I truly looking for?"})]}),e.jsx("p",{children:"Those questions don't guarantee compatibility. But they create a very different starting point — one built on honesty instead of assumptions."}),e.jsx("h2",{children:"Why I built Vetted"}),e.jsx("p",{children:"I didn't build Vetted because the world needed another dating app. I built it because I became convinced that people deserve a better starting point."}),e.jsx("p",{children:"As a therapist, I've watched too many wonderful people lose hope — not because they weren't worthy of love, but because they kept entering conversations with people who wanted something completely different."}),e.jsx("p",{children:"I wanted to create a community where intentionality comes first. Where people begin with self-awareness. Where trust matters. Where introductions are thoughtful instead of random."}),e.jsxs("p",{children:["That's why every member begins by completing a"," ",e.jsx("strong",{children:"Relationship Readiness Assessment"})," before becoming discoverable. Not because anyone has to be perfect. But because healthy relationships often begin with honest reflection."]}),e.jsx("h2",{children:"Is Vetted right for everyone?"}),e.jsx("p",{children:"Honestly? Nope. If you're simply browsing or aren't sure what you're looking for yet, Vetted may not be the right fit."}),e.jsx("p",{children:"But if you're hoping to build a meaningful relationship with someone who's also approaching dating intentionally, I think you'll appreciate what we're creating."}),e.jsx("h2",{children:"Take the first step"}),e.jsx("p",{children:"You don't have to create a profile today. You don't even have to decide whether Vetted is right for you. Just start with one question:"}),e.jsx("p",{children:e.jsx("strong",{children:"How relationship-ready am I today?"})}),e.jsx("p",{children:"Our free Relationship Readiness Assessment takes just a few minutes to complete and gives you insight into where you are in y

1our relationship journey. If what we're building resonates with you, we'd love to welcome you as one of our founding members."}),e.jsx("p",{children:"Because better relationships don't begin with better swipes. They begin with better intentions."}),e.jsx("h2",{children:"Ready for something different?"}),e.jsx("p",{children:"If you're tired of wondering whether someone wants the same kind of relationship you do, Vetted was built for people like you."}),e.jsxs("ul",{children:[e.jsx("li",{children:"Relationship Readiness Assessment"}),e.jsx("li",{children:"Intentional introductions"}),e.jsx("li",{children:"Privacy-first design"}),e.jsx("li",{children:"Built by a Marriage & Family Therapist with 20+ years of experience"})]}),e.jsx("p",{children:"Take the free assessment and become one of Vetted's founding members today."})]})}export{l as component};